New marriage over pt2--help she's filing this week

[asitis]

So, don't follow those people. You go into each of their pages and there is a following button. Change it to don't follow. There stuff won't appear on your feed. Your stuff will still appear on theirs. If you want to be more interactive, find an occasional time when you want to go visit their pages to like or comment on the posts you want.

Like Matt said, make choices that makes sense for you, rather than focus on what she will think or not. It is part of detaching & GAL that you focus on going on w/ your life. Just be careful that she will likely see things you post via the family commenting, so don't just spout off thinking you can do so with impunity.

Also, no reason you can't take long FB breaks. Sort of like going on a new diet. "I'll only have desert every three days instead of every day." Don't think in all or nothing.

You seem to be overly worried about making an impact on her, or sending her just the right message that will draw her back. Forget about that. It won't work and you'll drive yourself crazy. The only message that works is that you are taking care of yourself and not pursuing her right now, that you are going on with your life and will be happy. That is what makes you attractive. She'll notice, and hopefully figure out if that is something she wants in her life again at some point, or she won't. If the latter, you'll be so much further along the healing process. If the former, you'll be so much better prepared for working on the M with her.

Set a little reminder on your cell phone task list or a private appointment with an alarm that goes off every morning for the next week that says "Today I will focus on me!" Sounds silly, but those kind of reminders do help.