Thank you for all your help Matt , really appreciate this . You don't think she'll think I overdid it by taking down our pictures? I really did it for my sanity. Also with the MIL I didn't even bring up the divorce situation or that her daughter said I'll get the paperwork this week, in fact I didn't even bring up my wife nor did she . Is that good?
So what if she does think you overdid it? She's leaving you. Don't you think she overdid it not wanting to sit down and work things out? If she asks, just look at her and say "Really?"
If she pushes, say that "she is the one who has walked out and doesn't want to work on things, who wants to move on with her life without me. I'm respecting your wishes, but it is not easy for me, and the reminders of what she is leaving are not good for me right now. Just as I am respecting you doing what you need to take care of yourself, respect my doing what is necessary to take care of myself."
If she still is mad, just say "I'm sorry you feel that way" and leave it at that. She is the one calling the shots, so she has no ground to stand on. If she is hurt or bothered by the consequences, that is a good thing. You aren't being mean or childish. I mean you could have drawn all sorts of nasty things on them, or put up photoshopped pictures of her in their place. See the difference?
And, definitely remove the bedside picture.
Me: 50 W:43 S6, S3 M: 12 yrs. T: 17 M is bad & Not happy Bomb Mar '14 S 5 Feb '15 D Bomb 13 Apr '15 (but "no hurry") DB Coach May '15 Wants proceed on D Aug '15 Starting 1-on-1 negotiations Sept '15
