2 Post - learning too slowly

[Bob723]

Thanks Bob. You too. That means a lot. This road is a lonely one isn't it?

I am saddened when I think back on our dead marriage. ALL THAT TIME. I wasted it! Now the time is up. There is no time. She's gone.

She chose to cheat. It's horrible, disgusting, it's a black mark on both our souls. But I chose to ignore my dying marriage for YEARS. And now that I am awake, she has no faith in us. It's so sad. I was such a fool.

You're welcome, Last. Yes, it sure is a lonely road, I agree. You have a lot to grieve, I know. But I don't think you wasted time in your M. You have 2 wonderful daughters, correct? Sure, you could've done things differently...so could've I and every LBS on this board. Thinking that you were a "fool" it going to bring you down even more.

As you say, now you are awake. If W were to quit this "addiction" and considered R with you, would you consider it?

BTW, Sandi's comment hits the nail right on the head: "You need to stay in the marital/family home, b/c you represent what was there before she chose to engage in adultery."

Last, believer or not, I hope you find this bible verse comforting. I have posted it before and I know it really helps calm me down and see things in a different light.

“I cry to you, O LORD; I say, ‘You are my refuge, my portion in the land of the living.’ Listen to my cry, for I am in desperate need; rescue me” (Psalm 142:5-6).

I'll dedicate a prayer to you after this post.

Bob