seperated 4 months, its now 9 months, oh and om

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I get the concentrate on me part, and ww could be doing things for many reasons, so I know I cant figure out why.

But what to do as far as interacting with ww is where they differed, and I think when I figure out how to do so I will move more towards me. Sandi thought I should pull back, and only be coparents with ww. My coach thought I should continue building on the friendship we have built in the last 3 months.

My ww believes I will shut down now, and will think that I am going back to my bad behavior, so building on the friendship will be a 180. However, sandi thought she needs to feel like she lost me which wont happen if we are friends.

I want to do whichever helps my chances at being together again, and if I feel I am doing so, it will make it easier for me to detach, and work only on me, and whatver happens, happens.