Crap. I was just coming on here to wish you luck tomorrow and to say I would be thinking about you. Well. Wishing you that strength tonight. Feel for you good buddy.
This doesn't really mean anything in the long view, though.
Sorry to hear that. It seems if closure is what she really wanted at this point, she would have wanted to be there. I think it is fear that kept her away. Maybe she is not ready to believe in what you are doing even though you know it is real this time.
Keep doing what you are doing, your story will have a happy ending, you are doing amazing work.
Me:47 W:47 D:12 T:27yrs. M:17yrs. S:10/14 Wife wants legal sep., which can be divorce after 1 yr. om b 7/15 but probably a lot longer
Sorry about this. At some point she will probably realize that by pushing it away rather than facing it she has done the opposite of closing the door on this chapter.
If you look back, a few pages, you'll see a couple of us were sort of what do you hope to get if she isn't ready to come to the table yet, and were you probably can't cancel it now, but not really sure if it will be helpful at this stage. I'd not look at it as a failure, as she can't say "I tried, but it just wasn't going to work," like many of us have gotten from our Ss who put in a showing with the MC but weren't really there.
Give it time, keep doing what you need to work on for yourself, and see what happens. It is never a linear process, and what seems like a set back turns out not to have been (we usually can't see it in the moment). Still, these things can really bring one down.
Hang in there.
Me: 50 W:43 S6, S3 M: 12 yrs. T: 17 M is bad & Not happy Bomb Mar '14 S 5 Feb '15 D Bomb 13 Apr '15 (but "no hurry") DB Coach May '15 Wants proceed on D Aug '15 Starting 1-on-1 negotiations Sept '15
Keep doing what you are doing, your story will have a happy ending, you are doing amazing work.
Agree. If you look back only a short while ago, you were a mess (not a criticism, most of us arrive that way), and the positive changes are quite striking. You've stepped up to the plate and are doing the hard work that will produce good results, even if they aren't the results you set out hoping for.
Me: 50 W:43 S6, S3 M: 12 yrs. T: 17 M is bad & Not happy Bomb Mar '14 S 5 Feb '15 D Bomb 13 Apr '15 (but "no hurry") DB Coach May '15 Wants proceed on D Aug '15 Starting 1-on-1 negotiations Sept '15
Thank you everyone. I know this is only a small set back and I know that my own actions are the reason that I'm here. I can't fault her for protecting herself.
My path will continue. If anything I was in a much better place before believing this meeting was going to happen and have been relatively paralyzed on the GAL front, and moving on with my own life since it was set. When I came home from C.A. I had a ton of goals and ways I wanted to move my life forward. I'll be back at them tomorrow.
Appreciate the kindness and support here.
M 39 W 36 T5 M3 BD - 1/15 Separated - Same Day Served 9/15 D finalized 6/17
I just wanted to stop by and inform you that you are in my thoughts and prayers. I have not forgotten about you! How could I? I am sorry to hear about the set back (small or not) it's tough to handle.
Peace to you, my friend, and may each day be better than the previous. Hang in there! We all know you are trying so hard...we have your back.
Your friend,
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
