Sorry about this. At some point she will probably realize that by pushing it away rather than facing it she has done the opposite of closing the door on this chapter.

If you look back, a few pages, you'll see a couple of us were sort of what do you hope to get if she isn't ready to come to the table yet, and were you probably can't cancel it now, but not really sure if it will be helpful at this stage. I'd not look at it as a failure, as she can't say "I tried, but it just wasn't going to work," like many of us have gotten from our Ss who put in a showing with the MC but weren't really there.

Give it time, keep doing what you need to work on for yourself, and see what happens. It is never a linear process, and what seems like a set back turns out not to have been (we usually can't see it in the moment). Still, these things can really bring one down.

Hang in there.


Me: 50 W:43
S6, S3
M: 12 yrs. T: 17
M is bad & Not happy Bomb Mar '14
S 5 Feb '15
D Bomb 13 Apr '15 (but "no hurry")
DB Coach May '15
Wants proceed on D Aug '15
Starting 1-on-1 negotiations Sept '15