Wow Difrent, that is just the kind of talk that could drive an LBS crazy. I truly believe that this is where the believe nothing they say and 50% of what they do truly comes into it's own.

Some of what she says resonates and is similar to things my H has said. There is a real sense of no guilt from her just now. And a sense of entitlement - to having a good time with OW - and knowing you love her. Perhaps she needs to come to doubt your love for her. Feel she is losing you. This coupled with the probable demise of R with OW - and what happens next is anyone's game.

I'm not surprised you doubt your own sanity at times. These are pretty insane times, and this is where detachment helps for sure. If you are able to 'observe' exchanges like that almost as a third party, and with a logical DB mind - perfect. That is a good alternative to feeling your sanity being swept away.

Know this dif - IMHO she has little good to offer you just now. I don't think you are crazy to still love her. But recognise where she is and have your boundaries firmly drawn around you. Things may well change in time of course. From what you post, her current state of mind and situation don't sound sustainable in the longer term.

Hang on in there!!

Last edited by Toots; 07/08/15 07:49 PM.
T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus