Photoka's reminders on anti-depressants is a good one, and the reason that it is best done by a psychiatrist, as it is a bit of an art to figure out which one(s) will work with which patients.

Real's other book, which is on couples is also excellent: How Can I Get Through to You. It is very in tune with the patriarchal cultural socialization that screws up both boys/men and girls/women and causes havoc in out adult relationships.

Me: 50 W:43
S6, S3
M: 12 yrs. T: 17
M is bad & Not happy Bomb Mar '14
S 5 Feb '15
D Bomb 13 Apr '15 (but "no hurry")
DB Coach May '15
Wants proceed on D Aug '15
Starting 1-on-1 negotiations Sept '15