'm debating on whether this dinner on Thursday is a good idea. We have agreed to meet once a week. During this time, I want to meet at some of her favorite places. Something we haven't done for a long time. I don't want to have any physical contact with her during these meetings. I also don't want it to seem like I am trying to hard and just doing it for the sake of the relationship. The two times I made her jealous during our last meeting, I am expecting her to retaliate and bring up something that will make me jealous and angry.
Come on, guy. I know LBH b.s. when I hear it. You can call it whatever, but the truth is you want a date with her once a week. You think you can turn this around your way, instead of DB. And in order to get physical, all she'd have to do is look at you a certain way. You don't want to look as though you are trying too hard? Well, she's going to see right through you. Know why? You are too easy.
I hope you get serious, be honest and tell it like it is. Don't come here and use words such as "fight" and then say you were really just playing. Don't cover yourself by saying something and coming back to say you were in a angry phase. (Which we understand anger, but I'm just saying don't try to excuse yourself if a board member points it out). We have seen it all, and some of us probably couldn't be shocked easily. You don't have to sound a certain way with us, just as long as you are being real with us. Be real with yourself, first. That is how we help each other, okay?
Have you read any of the DB books yet? Have you read those links Cadet gave you?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
