Help and support appreciated

[West1]

Been reading the forums for a couple of weeks.

Working my way through DB and DR.

I was having EA on my smartphone at work.
BD 5/2/15 by me exw who had been given a chat profile I was using by our D15 who found it and showed her. Then blew it all up by sending to me and my W with a long rant about if you are going to cheat don't do it with a public profile. Didn't know that it linked to my phone,all it ever asked for was email.Had ended it. Deleted the program 3 weeks earlier,and was working on myself and my marriage to ensure it would never happen again.

W moved out with her D15 and our Twin D1 on June 15th. Until this point we were still sleeping in same bed. She wanted to separate and live as friends and raise our blended family.Huge arguments over the weekend prior and refusing to be yelled at and confronted I shut down and became hurtful and mean, basically telling her to make good on threats of leaving and get out.


She filed day after she moved out.

She is living with her brother in their spare bedroom. 4 of them.

Says she doesn't trust anyone. Thinks our whole marriage is a lie. Told me she could never forgive or forget. Never getting another chance.she gave me another chance before almost 5 years ago. She could never let go of talking to the woman I had been having phone conversations with and brought it up constantly.

I am working on GAL. Seeing my twins every other day so I see W every other day. Stopped calling, return her call. She is texting me now about being sad about all the work we put in our marriage and having nothing to show for it. She can't find a place, can't work full-time due to daycare costs.

I feel horrible for what I have put her through. I want to save my marriage and am not sure how to tell what is a positive sign other than we aren't arguing. All we are talking about is the kids.