STBX went back to his hometown for a while. I haveA premonition. He will stay there, and I will be granted an uncontested divorce when I file.

It was like he told me when he was thinking about coming home after we separated. "Z, if we get into some huge fight before we are ready to work on our marriage, that will be the end of us." (self-fulfilling prophecy or plan?) "I think maybe I should return to my hometown where I will have support." (I am going with completely premeditated plan. He knew what he was doing when he came home to 'work on our marriage').

The Weight of Lies - The Avett Brothers

Disappear from your home town
Go and find the people that you know
Show them all of your good parts
Leave town when the bad ones start to show
Go and wed a woman
A pretty girl that you never met
Make sure she knows you love her well
But don't make any other promises
The weight of lies will bring you down
And follow you to every town 'cause
Nothing happens here that doesn't happen there
So, when you run make sure you run
To something and not away from 'cause
Lies don't need an aeroplane to chase you anywhere

Mid 30's
Psych-abusive M with violent tantrums from XH
D 9/15; NC forever on

You can't DR your way out of abuse.