I would never in 1 million years have said this man was slithery! I have no doubt he has traumatized himself. And is a good man out of practice with his feelings. And I don't want to be launch pad for his MLC. I think his heart was originally in the right place. At the time of my Husband's accident, he was really there for us.

I will take responsibility in that I probably opened up too much, and shared too much with him, and should have kept a little more space. He was not a girlfriend. their lunches I should have declined. Lesson learned going forward.

Mid 30's
Psych-abusive M with violent tantrums from XH
D 9/15; NC forever on

You can't DR your way out of abuse.