Next time I will use nude, sounds more artistic. Like in the Calander Girls. I was more imagining naked in the vulnerable sense. And Cali there wasn't anywhere for U to hide those buttons I guess they were washed away.
V you made me laugh, no need to change, but we can go with artistic calendar girl too - (don't ruin my moment ).
Love your story too - (note to self - leave the pink suite at home when visiting the UK)
As far as my statement about boundaries, I was passive and pushed around, but didn't think it was a problem. I was controlled at times, but I put her on a pedestal. There were times of anger from her, but most of the time I felt that I had it coming or at least that I caused it. I did what I could to change her mood and make her happy. There were times when things have been broken in anger. There was an incident where things got out of hand and that should have been the time that I addressed what I would accept and what I wouldn't. In a time of her anger about 12 years ago, she stabbed me in the forearm with a fork. Dug it right in there. Her anger came from me spending too much time working - we had small children at home, she was a SAHM at the time, I was working an hour away and spending about 14 hours a day out of the house. The pressure of the kids and my work schedule built over time and it was a snapping point - she could not count on me to be home for dinner. It wasn't too long after that that I decided to quit that job and open my own business (life got much better for all of us).
So yes there have been some isolated incidences of violence, but we should have been honest and addressed this.
Thank you for being V, V
Me-45 W-44 S21, S18, D15 T-27, M-21 BD Jan 2014 PA revealed March 2014 In-house separation - April 2015 I filed - Aug 2015 She moved out Oct 2015
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