In which I'm feeling lost, but will perservere (2)

[asitis]

Wow, live it up. Donating blood is like getting tipsy while doing a good deed. Seriously, good job, and at least your H is a transparent idiot you don't have to work that hard too figure out at the moment.

It's like when my students are texting in class, I think, you do realize that I'm standing right here in front of you? I'm not a TV screen. I can actually see everything you are doing. And, btw, it really looks odd to see you with your hands down in your lap grinning like an idiot.

Ah, the teenage mind. At least my students have the excuse of actually being teenagers.

[Elly4]

LOL! Thanks Asitis for the laugh. You are so right. He is not a very good liar. Trust me, I know all about the teaching part too. And it's always amusing when my 4 year old tells me not to come into a room. Lets me know immediately he's up to no good.

Your post made me remember to get off what he's doing and focus on me.

Of course, he texted me this morning and wants to go camping from Friday to Sunday this coming weekend. We haven't gone camping for over six years, which is part of our problem. We stopped doing the things that we enjoyed together. We used to spend two weeks a year together on an island by ourselves, and never felt like we wanted the time to end. Now I'm trying to figure what we'll talk about at night in front of the fire.

[Elly4]

So came home from work tonight and H was withdrawn and quiet. He spent the night with our S looking through our camping equipment. I asked if he was okay or wanted to talk. He said no, he was fine. He wasn't but I'm not pursuing.

Now, I'm wondering if he has second thoughts about this weekend, or is he remembering other camping times, or countless other things. I know....no mindreading. It is so darn hard though when you share a house still together Is he wondering what he's going to talk about around the fire too? Or is he wishing that this weekend is just he and our s? I shouldn't offer to stay home though, right? He suggested "us" to go camping. Maybe it had nothing to do with our trip and everything to do with Jupiter again. This is a cheeseless tunnel. Arrghh!

[Matt777]

E - just go and have fun. Do you have some games or something you can take? Card games? Other little board games? I can recommend some if that interests you. Try to go and have a relaxing weekend. Remember, he invited YOU! That's pretty great!

And, don't think that it isn't hard NOT sharing a house

[Elly4]

Thanks, Matt! I was just posting on your thread.

We used to play games all the time, but now every time I bring it up, he doesn't want to. Think I'll still pack our scrabble and cribbage board.

And I totally get how lucky I am in many ways that he is still in the house! He really is giving me the gift of time.

hugs
E

[Matt777]

Thanks, Matt! I was just posting on your thread.

We used to play games all the time, but now every time I bring it up, he doesn't want to. Think I'll still pack our scrabble and cribbage board.

And I totally get how lucky I am in many ways that he is still in the house! He really is giving me the gift of time.

hugs
E

Just keep throwing 5s into his crib! That ought to bring him around.

If you want something kinda thinky but super portable, there's a game called "Hive" that's not too complicated and has pretty pieces and can be played pretty much anywhere.

I'll be thinking of you guys this weekend!

[asitis]

Smores and campfire stories (no scary ones at that age).

Is your S into nature? Get him an inexpensive magnifying glass, and some small plastic jars that he can gather insects in to study. There are all sorts of things that are cool to see close up and magnified.

Take some thin white paper, crayons, hair spray or fixative, some paste and a notebook. He can make bark & leaf rubbings.

Sitting and having cocoa by a fire and just talking about what you did is also wonderful.

Creek shoes for looking for crayfish and other stream life.

I'm planning a weekend trip for early fall with my guys and can't wait. Just writing down the above, and maybe I'll try to also do trip before school starts.

Have fun.

[Elly4]

Those are some great ideas, Asitis! I'm not too worried about when my S is around because we both seem to be coparenting well. But as he goes to sleep at 7, it might make for a long night with my H. I had already bought a magnifying glass, and the jars, but I LOVE the rubbing idea. That will be terrific. It will be my S's first camping trip.

I think I do just need to relax and enjoy it. Maybe make sure to bring some books so that if H needs space, I can give it. Or I can just listen to the river. I love camping.

[Elly4]

Matt, I'll check into Hive. Maybe a new game will draw him in more. Thanks for the suggestion!

E

[asitis]

Take a good book & camp light for those hours w/ the H after S is asleep. Deck of cards for solitaire (or a game if H is up to it, then you can have something civil to do and may lose some of that awkwardness). Also, let the little guy stay up just a bit later. It's a camping trip & roasting smores over a campfire can't properly be done if it is still too light out.