I know my W and the OW went to some regular Tuesday creativity class or something tonight. (Which cracks me up, because this was clearly the OW's idea, something my W in any mind other than "affair brain fog mind" would NEVER sign up for.) I just got back from my divorce support group, and because we had a day that wasn't completely cold or acrimonious, one that even had some kindness and warmth, I kind of want her to come home. Not that she'd spend meaningful time with me. Not that she'd be anywhere other than upstairs in the spare bedroom. But... I would like for her to sleep here tonight, instead of there.
Knowing her, she probably wants to. Knowing the OW, she is probably pressuring her to stay there. Knowing the situation, all of this still has a very long way to go before any hint of reconciliation is possible.
None of this is my business, or my concern. Detachment, no expectations, things are what they are. Give her to God. Let the planted seeds take root, and give them time. I'm learning. Every day, I'm learning.
PS And just now... very odd. She called me to say, "I'm just calling because I haven't been home much lately, and I wanted to see if you needed anything." I said, "no, I'm okay." She said, in a quiet sort of voice with a television on in the background, "Okay well, I'm not coming home again tonight, so you can bolt the front door." "Okay." "Okay well, I'll see you tomorrow." "Okay. Goodnight." All of this in sort of a whisper...
She has never called to tell me she's not coming home. In fact, if she has to communicate anything these days, she typically texts. Although I'm trying to DETACH, I can't help but wonder what that was all about...
Last edited by DifRent; 07/08/1501:55 AM.
Me: 46 Her: 41 M: 5.5 yrs / S: 20, 18 3/26 W and I meet OW BD: 5/2/2015, she takes off ring W goes to stay with OW 6/26 NC: 9/5 Both moved out: 10/16 I take off my ring and feel... healed: 10/19
