I do agree with part of what he is saying about being attractive to the wayward spouse. Building a life and GAL without them. Many of the reconciled spouses have said that a big factor was seeing the LBS moving on without them and that life would be 'okay' without them.

That was the point I was leaning towards.

M 31 H 34
S 6 S 9
BD 2/14 Piecing 8/14