Snap that band! Keep in mind, if the ow is married and her h says anything to her about the affair, she will do the same thing and protect your h. They are out to protect each other from the big bad wolves of the world and will do anything to support each other.
The saying you are referring to has been around for a very long time and it applies to some, but not all. Regardless of the saying, the affair must die a slow and natural death. I, personally, do not put much stock into the saying because I've seen so many, not just here by in the real world that the "monthly time limit" doesn't match up w/for every year of the marriage. Some affairs are shorter than others. It depends on the people involved, their issues and the addictions that need the fix, so to speak. Regardless...it takes a lot of time and patience.
Dig deeper for patience and try to keep the focus on you and your life. When you sit quietly, the answers will be revealed to you (yes, it does work). PATIENCE!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
