Summer of Growth and Acceptance

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First, put a rubber band on your wrist and snap it very hard! It works and trust me, you won't be thinking about the affair or the ow.

Let me ask you this...how do you think a married woman having an affair w/your h would be less a threat? There are so many on this forum you have had spouses get involved w/other married people. Whether that affair partner is single, married or was in a relationship prior to the hook up...they are considered threats because they've become involved w/our spouses. They are just as responsible as our spouses are for getting involved in the affairs, be it emotional and/or physical.

Affairs will die a slow death and it's best to allow them to do so on their own. The more we ask questions and/or confront our spouses, the more we push them together.

Just like drugs, alcohol and gambling, the affair and partner are like an addiction. They get a high off of being a secret and yes, you not knowing, or so they think. If this woman wasn't in the picture, it would be someone else. I want you to know that she's really nothing more than a drug of choice right now and no, she's not like you at all. Many of them tend to "affair down". You are the prize and do not ever forget that.

My advice, go on your trip, focus on your work and if you happen to wrap up early, then come home.

Now, snap that rubber band! Please stop giving this woman head space because she's not paying rent.