Zelda - Goodbye my almost lover, my hopeless dream

[WhyUs]

So this is really weird to read. My wife that is having a long distance EA right now seems to be having the same issue with a neighbor. He texts her many times everyday. He has been doing it for a couple of years. He and his wife are good friends of ours. My wife and I even had a conversation one time where she said she though he had a little crush on her. We laughed about it because he really is not her type.

Well, when my wife began her affair and it was not exposed, she went to him and his wife to tell them how terrible of a husband that I was when no one was around. Soon he began encouraging her to divorce me. He did not even try to talk to me about it. Once the A was exposed he was still encouraging to divorce me.

She let me listen to them on the phone when she got drunk one night. He was telling her all the things I would try to do to get her back and that she has to ignore them. He told her she would be a great single mom. I confronted him once I heard this. He said I did not understand the context of their conversation just like I did not understand why my wife was having an affair. Yikes, I could not believe what I was hearing. When I asked my wife about it she said she did not know what to do. She said he smothers her and she can't set boundaries with him. "He constantly wants to help me. I don't want to hurt his feelings." She said if we get divorced she wants to move away from him because he would not leave her alone.

However, when we would get in arguments she would text him and say I was bullying her. --in other words she still reached out to him.

It's just so weird to read this.