Finally had that "nefarious" lunch with my mom and the mortgage lender that we felt was set up by a prompting of the Holy Spirit. W and I drove over together, and things were really quite pleasant - some talk of what furniture I want to keep, what she wants as we move to separate spaces, that sort of thing. Actually may have even figured out a way for me to stay here a bit longer and just move into one of our rentals while I secure land and build... which if that's the case, takes not only a huge load off my mind, but doesn't completely sever ties between us, which is what I know the OW wants.
Anyway, at lunch, my W was on the phone and texting as usual in the beginning, till our mortgage lender friend told her to put it down! There was a fair amount of talk about real estate and business, but it seemed at just the right time, the mortgage lender told her own story of being baptized and spiritually attacked not long after - particularly about a period of sexual promiscuity that she "just knew was wrong. I eventually woke up and came out of it, but till then, I had just thrown all God's graces away."
I was sitting next to my W, but my mom paid attention to her reactions. She said she was attentive, and listening. Have no idea if any of what was said will stick with her, but she heard it in a way that wasn't judgmental or accusatory or even directed at her, and she can't unhear it. So, we just keep praying, and DBing, and we'll see where things go... still a very long road ahead, either way.
Me: 46 Her: 41 M: 5.5 yrs / S: 20, 18 3/26 W and I meet OW BD: 5/2/2015, she takes off ring W goes to stay with OW 6/26 NC: 9/5 Both moved out: 10/16 I take off my ring and feel... healed: 10/19
