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[Mavrik]

I have been with my wife for 23 years married for 18.
We have a child together 17 and a child that was 4 when we started dating that is my child but not biologically.

I lost my job and have not gotten completely back on my feet. I was out of work for over 18 months.
I have paid all the bills and have kept everything going by using my 401K.
In January my wife's father became ill and she went home 500 miles away to be with him while I worked (short term job)and stayed with my daughter while she was in school.
My wife was in her hometown for a month.
She became close to a female friend and her brother because their father was dying as well.
My father in law died and my wife stayed a few days longer than the kids and I.
When my wife got home she would go to bed at 8:00pm.
I told her I was here for her and wanted to provide support but I thought she just needed her time alone.
At one point she told me that her friend (the male one) was coming to a nearby town and she was gonna go see him.
I was not jealious until she was with him longer that I thought she should have.
Long story short after another trip home in March I did some checking and she had been texting the guy over 2000 time per month and the girl almost as much.
When I confronted her things went downhill and not 3 months into this she has told me it is over.
But then tells a mutual friend that she doesn't know if we can work it out when the friend asked her.
I have done a lot of the things that you are not supposed to do, cry, beg, plead.
But I have also gotten mad and told her to get the (blank) out of my house. We are still sleeping in the same bed but we barely talk. She will try to bait me into an arguement.
My 26 year old daughter told her that until she is through with the guy she is through with her.
They have not talked in 6 weeks and of course that is my fault.
The best thing about this is my daughter and I have become so close.

I just hate that she blames me because as my daughter says I have a mind of my own.