this week is a short one. we got back from Michigan on sunday and heat to Wisconsin Friday AM. Wife, S13 & I to go hang out with friends for the weekend. My S10 is with my folks.
Didn't plan any new GAL this week, just gym visits and guitar on Thursday. BUT...have a ton to do around the house so I really don't have much time for anything else with being out of town three weekends in a row.
The holiday went well, with the only exception the interaction between my mom and wife. mom was being overbearing and wife was not having it. I tried to validate those complaints from wife, but didn't mediate. I will have to see if it worth a sit down with my mom to mention how much of a pain in the A$$ she can really be . It was beautiful weather and had lots of fun!
I got some nice birthday presents from the wife and the kids. they made special trips to couple of different stores to find some cool stuff for me! was very taken back how much time was spent finding so many different things, for training, for gaming and for general purpose. Wife said they even spend like 1/2 hour trying to pick out a card. I was really happy with them.
I have been thinking about the gift giving thing a lot lately. I have been absolutely floored how much the thoughtful gifts my wife has gotten me since Xmas have moved me. My whole life I never felt like that at all. Have I really been that empty inside disregarding those presents that were well thought out and given from the heart...never gave it much though and never had any impact on me. So this is a change in me, and I like it I continue to show absolute appreciation for those gifts I receive and I will continue to give without expectations myself. (maybe gifts isn't my way down the list #5 on the 5LL chart afterall, maybe I just never took them as such, who knows).
Another item I wanted to throw out there that has been bugging my mind a little. My wife has shown some real irritation towards me when I address her with a name like mommy or momma when not with the children. She said that it has been bothering her a lot lately. So I have absolutely been trying not to address her as such at all...I HEARD HER . But what is it that is bugging her about it?
She still calls me daddy in front of the kids and dog and sometimes just in general. Is it a thing with MY mother that pi$$es her off or is it part of the identity crisis part of her internal issues? I've even seen twinges of anger when I had called her an old pet name from High School that I've used for 25 years. again, I've really cut down on that too, has slipped a couple of times...but making sure to make a conscious effort to put into action what she does not want to hear from me.
in regards to the name thing, she does call me honey, baby or babe all the time...but I also here her call others the same...like the kids or her friends so it is not especially endearing to hear from her. it does bug me a little to hear her call her cousin honey and then turn around and use it to address me. IDK why that bugs me...it is just a little bit.
that's all for now. hope you all have a great week ahead. I will keep reading between stops this weekend.
Thanks again for reading and supporting and helping me keep my sanity.
. It was beautiful weather and had lots of fun!