20 minutes later she texts me asking if I wanted to ask her mom to stay with the kids if they've fallen asleep and join her. I said sure. Her mom stayed and I joined her. She kept her headphones on the entire time and just listened to music. I just walked with her, keeping a PMA and imagined (per CaliGuy) the whole tweety bird in Sylvester's mouth idea. ha!
Good on you keeping PMA, I recall a car drive with my W and she did this, literally was like a teen age girl ignoring everyone and in her own world .. drove me nuts.
Just remember, you do not have to accept every invite, even at home you can find 'better' things to do ... this play alot like a game at times and your W will test you and test just how detached you truly are.
Originally Posted By: t33
We walked a short while and she was done, so I said I was staying out to continue walking and she went home.
Spoke with a friend who said she really enjoyed the weekend and thought it was so great. She said she still didn't think it changed anything, but was much less confident of that.
Its good to have some intel, but look at this from afar and see it for what it is .. you seem to constantly temp check to see if your W has movement, all up in your W's head about where she is at, more concerned about her than you are about what you are doing. I know this because I am the poster boy for this one .. having issues being able to pull it off my self, but you have to get to a point its about you and your changes, nothing you can do to control her and how she feels ... so keep that mirror handy and start looking at what you want to change about yourself.
