You are in no shape to date at this stage. You are still emotionally tied to STBX. Embrace your "aloneness" and get comfortable with that state of mind. When I felt lonely, I itched to reach out and date. I knew it was for the wrong reasons so I fought to stay off the slippery slope.
I am glad for the choices I've made. Once I arrived at a stage where I was "perfectly" fine with being alone, it was when I started to date again. I dated from a position of "yeah, let's explore" instead of "ugh, I am so lonely...I am so needy." See?
You will find a healthy woman in time. Trust the process.
So true! I am a living proof of this.
I am in total agreement with you Wonka! I don't want to date because my kids are my focus right now. It is hard enough for them dealing with the separation. Than you throw some stranger in the mix!! Not good for them. I want them to know that it is just me and them at our house and that they are my number 1 priority. Stbx already said she was bringing a friend with her to pick up the kids. I told her if she shows up with some guy, they are not going with her. They don't need that kind of stuff to deal with. She claims it is not a guy. I could care less. The kids have not seen her since Memorial Day. They don't need to travel 1-1/2 days with a stranger. D12 would freak out if some other guy was with her. Stbx is a dang looney!!!
Today, I am working on detaching again. I let STBX get inside my head too much yesterday! I am disappointed in myself for allowing that. I am also allowing my fears to take over. Today I am focused on getting back on track!!
Me:44 EXW 44 Wonderful Children M11, T14 BD 6/14 OM Confirmed Divorce Final 2/25/16 "It works if you work it!"
