After you tell W all of that ^^, you might want to show a bit vulnerability by stating that you did this out of fear of being the "real you" because you were afraid she'd reject you after 'seeing' you. Close it out by saying how wrong you were all along and you're determined to live your life clean along with your core values.
Perhaps invite her to go to the pin ceremony. No expectations.
I think you've got this...you've done your own research and talking to the right people in the field. You'll be just fine.
