2 Post - learning too slowly

[asitis]

Yes. We have an agreement to not see other people, and should one of us decide to change it, we need to give advanced warning and discuss the ramifications and ground rules.

Mine would be not in the house even if the kids were not there, and I'd be reluctant to allow it in either place. Go do it elsewhere. I don't want to be sleeping in the same bed as, you know.

We do respect each other's privacy. If for some reason we need to come to the other place, it is with advance permission. Rarely happens in the case of the apartment, but more often with the house, as their is maintenance that needs to happen, and it is much more likely that something necessary will be forgotten at the house.

So far, there have been no problems with this. But, my W & I have been very good at handling the separation and the relationship at the level it is at the moment. Our MC has pointed it out to us that we are unusual, and I often joke to my friends when they are astounded by how we are working together to make this sitch work, "yeah we have a really strong M, except for we don't."

You can at least discuss the situation and see where that discussion leads. The original idea was a suggestion of my IC. Oh, and we worked for quite a few MC sessions on logistics of the separation.