Too soon. No pursuit until she signals she is back on board with saving the marriage and ready to roll up her sleeves and get to work. Even then, I'd go for more subtle things - and more unexpected new Upnorth 2.0.
Like, she's been working hard, so you clean out the bathroom spic and span, text her and say, I cleaned the tub, got you some bath salts, a bottle of wine, and I'm taking the kids out to a movie - enjoy." You have to know that she'd be available of course. But even if she did want to take the bath, you did something she would value no matter what (clean the bathroom on your own initiative) and made a real gesture of love that also gave her the space she will still be wanting at times.
Patience will still be the mantra during the piecing stage when it finally comes.
Me: 50 W:43 S6, S3 M: 12 yrs. T: 17 M is bad & Not happy Bomb Mar '14 S 5 Feb '15 D Bomb 13 Apr '15 (but "no hurry") DB Coach May '15 Wants proceed on D Aug '15 Starting 1-on-1 negotiations Sept '15
