Hi HaWho! Wow, that must have taken some time to catch up on my sitch! I'm sorry that you are in the same place I am, and seem to have been dealing with it longer too. We do seem to have many parallels, unfortunately. My H too has also been kind and thoughtful and now he's just miserable. I hate that I can't help him, but he has to want help first.
I will stop by to read your sitch. Until then, hang in there and feel free to chat.
M 46 / H 43 T 24/M 18 S 4 11/6/2014 ILYBNILWY 1/16/2015 Living in separate bedroom 1/8/2016 H moved out