First, stop demanding any answers from him. It isn't good DBing at a minimum, and it sets up a situation that will harm you and the kids (either legally for you, or trauma for the kids).
Second, he filed. I want to make this suggestion with the contingent that you have to be sure you will be safe making the demand. You should not be the one to leave, but clearly the situation has deteriorated to the point where it isn't good for you and your H to share space. I'd say that this situation isn't working. He has filed for divorce and feels that answering questions is something he thinks is unbearable enough that he calls the cops. Ask him to please move out immediately.
Now, the question is what if he refuses? I'll defer to other more experienced in such situation, as it is hard for me to get in the head of a man that was seeking a divorce to refuse such a reasonable request. I'd go to a lawyer tomorrow for advice either way.
Sorry this is going so badly for you.
Me: 50 W:43 S6, S3 M: 12 yrs. T: 17 M is bad & Not happy Bomb Mar '14 S 5 Feb '15 D Bomb 13 Apr '15 (but "no hurry") DB Coach May '15 Wants proceed on D Aug '15 Starting 1-on-1 negotiations Sept '15
