Husband A for one year

[Matt777]

well I was successful at not calling or texting him today. He did text me at Noon asked if i was having a good day. convo went like this
H:having a good day?
An hour or so later
M:yes busy but good got a lot done u?
H:garbage lol (he was picking up garbage he works at a park)
m: in the rain need to know if you want me to get groceries or no it will have to come from savings?
H:all day so far lol
M I can look at ad and see what cost is lol r u wanting to grill still then or no? (for dinner)
H IDK lol what do you think
M: about dinner or groceries lol
H: grill for dinner? And what do you want to do for groceries
M:ill have to look at add let you know lol well I know you dont want to grill in rain but D7 has been asking so how about griddle inside. I really wanted potatoes and onion with it but i could just do that inside too unless you want something else?
H: (3 hours later) however

I think it's not bad. But what if you had the conversation I marked in blue?
It isn't like he answered any of your questions about dinner anyway, right? You're going to make dinner anyway, right? You want HIM to be the one to want to keep the conversation going. Get him to pursue YOU.

I tried to keep it simple pleasant and task oriented. dinner groceries how was your day! I sent a few (5 or less) texts on saturday night mainly good luck racing and to let him know kids and i made it home. but otherwise I have not text him since friday when he was short with me. I did not cuddle up to him last night in bed either. and we sat on opposite ends of the couch for a few hours last night. I did get him a bowl of ice cream when i got mine (i offered) and I did go out to garage and read a book and helped unload racing stuff. otherwise there was little communication yesterday. It actually was not as bad as i expected!

Sounds like good baby steps. Continue to treat him like a friendly neighbor or a not-that-close friend.