Working on it, but affair hasn't ended yet...

[t33]

Thank you everyone for chiming in. Vanilla, u-turn, sandi2, and Bob723.

I very much appreciate the support and words of encouragement.

It is a confusing time and it is difficult to apply the proper DB techniques at various times. I appreciate everyone's opinions and pointing out what may or may not be the most effective strategy.

I have been working hard on 180s:

• Not working so late to be around for the family. For the kids and home, and to work out, etc. - not just to be a lap dog for the wife.
• Going "outside the box" - while my wife had resigned to the fact that I've turned to conservative and not open to new/risky/wild experiences - I've opened myself up to doing more fun and crazy things.
• Rather than "look down" or try to talk her out of things that she wants to do - I have embraced her doing things she never would have thought I'd be accepting of.

All these things have opened her eyes a bit and she's been a bit surprised as to where I've taken some of these things. It has certainly increased her curiosity and attention to me.

I've been working hard not to "pursue", though I'm sure I fail at that from time to time. She's the one who approached me most often during the weekend and we had a really great time. Something she echo'd to a co-worker. Whether or not that attention and renewed sense of enjoyment with me is something that will stay or is fleeting remains to be seen, but still, for 3 days we had a crazy, fun, and enjoyable time.

Any time the conversation turned too far ahead, I pushed it off and said, it's "just one day at time". The idea being putting too much thought into the marriage, the relationship, the future - it's too early and we're not there yet. I don't want fleeting good feelings about "us" to get tainted by dwelling on too much over thinking.

I need more 180s, just not sure what. Working on GAL, albeit slowly, and work is going to be crazy the next two weeks.

Still, true or not, I certainly feel to be in a better place today on Monday, than where I was on Thursday. I pray for continued progress.