On silence and patience

[asitis]

Sorry about your L's letter. I'd insist that L runs drafts past you for approval. It will add a bit of fees, but better than the alternative.

Have you been keeping a journal on child care. Include things like taking to doctors, shopping for clothes etc., and all the other little things that are part of upkeep of a child. Work back as far as you can. Then go back through your threads looking for times you complained about your W dropping the ball or putting the burden on you w/ re to childcare. Your journalling on these forums gives you a tool for reconstructing.

If you haven't been, doing this, start ASAP, as the courts may want to see evidence that your W is misportraying the parenting division.

[censored] to have to go through this. Do you have medation in your country, and would W consider this. Get you away from Laurel and Hardy making your lives and future as co-parents less difficult and unpleasant.

Hang in there.