Here's the truth - there is nothing you can do TODAY to save your marriage. There is nothing you can do TOMORROW to save your marriage. This is not a three week fix or heck, likely, not a three month fix. This is about REPEATED, CONSISTENT behaviors over the long term. This is about you becoming the man you want to be. Not until you become THAT person is there a chance for her to want to come back. Right now, she is comparing being with you to being without you --- guess which she thinks is the better option.
There's nothing you can say to her right now to change her mind. Instead, your goal should be to BECOME the better option. It's hard. It hurts. It [censored]. But right now, it's not about saving your marriage. It's about YOU.
No contact and not pursuing is there to give YOU the space to grow. But just not contacting her is not enough without the other part. Now is a time for self reflection and self improvement. You have the time - now use it!
