FIDO - Changing The Rules - Pt 2

[NH115]

Because of all the anger she's carrying, she's going to start IC soon. Our MC also has her writing an anger letter to me. She can write whatever she wants, no holds barred. It's not a letter I'll ever read. The idea is that she can start getting some of her anger out of her system, without pummeling me. She's writing it and it's bubbling up in a big way at me anyway. I was warned that would happen, so it is what it is.

Now she's starting to try and get promises out of me about financial settlements if we split. Her rhetoric is that she wants to be able to make clear decisions about staying with me or not without worrying about finances. I personally believe she's given up and is just trying to get some reassurances before she drops the bomb. She says that's not the case, but I don't believe her.

I value what she's contributed to our family and I'm willing to be fair about it...I don't want to get into petty games that only make the lawyers rich, but there's a limit. I'm no Rockefeller.

Part of me thinks this is spew; she does this when she gets angry and panicky, but I don't know. It feels different. She's stopped talking about her general fears of not being happy and started getting into the nuts and bolts of D.

What makes me mad the most is that she's trying to hold me responsible for her choosing a non-marketable major (before she met me) and working part-time all these years....like if I had been a better husband then her dream of marrying and never having to actually support herself would have panned out. I don't understand that because she's ever been lazy.

She's also angry at me because she'll have to work full time and it'll interfere with her ability to meet someone. Welcome to the real world, sweetheart. Every adult who dates has to work around their day job. She can date on her own time like the rest of humanity. The entitlement mentality coming out of her is staggering. I called her out on that BS.