Heather - nearly ten years on, all I can say these guys are nuts.
Remember words, though nice, are cheap. What we need is some follow through with actions showing that they actually 'get it'
Usually they don't, but the thought is a nice one!
I can see he might miss his family, but what is he going to do about it? My xh has been playing nice lately, but sadly, no real change. Some do change, but so many really don't.
I would leave it. There is tendency to draw us in (I know this one!)
They broke it, and only they can fix it. I know it sounds harsh but part of the touch and go is an exchange of words. If and when they get it, they will act. Big difference
I agree with Bea, I would leave it and not continue the conversation for now. Could it be a drunk texting? In any case, this shows that he does think about you and his family. He remembered the anniversary! And he got emotional... Drunk or not… There is a saying I remember from my childhood that goes like this “what sober person has in his mind, drunk has on his tongue.”
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state
Heather, Your STBXH was probably having a wee moment of clarity and was actually thinking about his family. Words are just that words and they do love to draw us into their drama and once we are back in and drop our guard, they hit us again w/a loud BAM! I had another thought about him his words today...could it be that he's just now starting to realize that the divorce will make everything final and you will finally move on w/your life and possibly find someone new? There are any number of reasons for his niceness...but I wouldn't let my guard down.
I do agree w/Bea and Bright...I wouldn't carry the conversation on any further.
Keep moving forward.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
