Don't ASK her about whether she's having an affair.
She won't fess up to it. She can't.
If possible, get the evidence yourself. Maybe find a way to put a GPS tracker on her car or the suspected OM's car. Find and reveal the truth and see what happens from there.
It's really impossible to fix/save a marriage when all the cards aren't on the table.
If OM is a plastic surgeon, if you bust him and tell his wife the truth about her life he will likely fire your wife immediately (his wife will make him). Sure your wife might have a sexual harassment lawsuit or whatever, these Doctors don't care. They'll just pay the attorneys and the settlements to make these problems go away. Your wife MIGHT snap out of it at that point and you get a chance to fix things or not. As a bonus, OM"s wife gets to figure out her life and marriage too.
Don't ask her. Let her think she's got you fooled and you aren't suspicious anymore at all. Last thing you want is her and OM being careful.
The internet is 90% complaining and entitlement and I hate it because I deserve better!
