The first thing everyone tells me when they hear the story is there is another man. The moving out in the middle of the night and no contact for weeks. I have no proof of the affair outside her actions that night and emotional distance. I feel like she may indicate something today.
Georgia, it is funny you brought up the lesbian affair. Whenever I would accuse her of other men, she answered this on more then one occasion. "I would be with a woman. Men are too much trouble." Then she would laugh and say she was joking. After she left, believe me, it crossed my mind. Still, a very real possibility.
On the man side of things, she works in a plastic surgeons office. All of the males inside the office are plastic surgeons. There was one married one in particular that I had been particularly worried about. She would bring him up in conversation often about work and talk about him. He is married with several kids.
That being said, there all kinds of possibilities. Part of me, just wants to tell her I am packing up and moving away to start a new life. Just something to shock the hell out of her. I know she doesn't love me anymore, but she loves our dogs. She would want to continue a friendship based solely on that. And I don't care if she does!
The sole purpose of me calling this meeting is to discuss financial obligations. All of which she has skirted since she left. Plus, I wanted to use the opportunity to show off what changes I had made. Lost weight, exercising every day, got a life, took excellent care of the yard and house. I will not bring them up but I want her to see them.
Right now, in my mind, I sit at 50/50. Half of me wants her back desperately and half of me wants to move on. I can't tell you how those feelings will change if she drops the affair on me. You are correct, she is not healthy in relationships.
Thanks again! I will update you tonight.
Last edited by shnswms; 07/06/1504:57 PM.
Me: 33 W: 30 T - 12 M - 3 K - 0 BD - 6/14/15 Moved out - 6/14/15
