Serve the servants: Wayward Wife & LRT (7)

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Just write it up in a private journal while it is fresh in your mind.

This is great advice. I did it.

When she starts the spew, I suggest you have a predefined response to say right back to her. This response should be direct clear and should break the conversation in its tracks.

This is also great advice. I don't currently have a predefined response. Any suggestions or examples?

Hang in there, keep the pma and gal. You've come so far already!

Thanks Rip. You're right, I have come a long way so far. I've come too far to give up now.

You did well w/ your W. Keep doing what you are doing. Her spew doesn't mean that she's not considering moving back toward you, so don't read into it. For instance, it could be that she's been thinking this and it scares her to feel this way. Or she could be ashamed of what she has done and is dodging the pain of that by acting out against you. If it allows her to take that step weather the storm as you did. If it was genuine spew, then it just means that she's not ready yet.

You've been doing the right things. Things aren't deteriorating, and may be thawing a bit, despite the spewfest.

I think you're right. Not to mindread, but I think STBX is conflicted. She's definitely not ready and I just need to stay the course.

Journaling:
After getting off phone with STBX last night, I headed over to a friend's house to hang and watch the World Cup final. We fired up the grill and enjoyed a few beers. Afterwards, we watched True Detective. Full disclosure, there was a girl there that I kind of flirted with off and on. She sat next to me on the couch while we watched TV. There is nothing there but it felt good and weird all at the same just to engage and be interested in anyone besides STBX. Don't worry, I don't plan on pursuing any romantic relationships at this time.

At halftime of the soccer match, I FaceTimed with D4 and S1. It was good to talk with both of them and it appeared that D4 had recovered from her earlier meltdown. STBX were cordial towards each other in our limited dialogue.

This morning, I woke up in the funk and realized that I never really had adequate time to decompress from the maelstrom that was Sunday. I decided to take a mental health day from work. It will do me some good to run some errands, straighten up the house, and I even called the plumber to take care of an issue I had been putting off for years. I also need to start getting all the documents together for the financial affidavit, etc.

I haven't heard from STBX about D4's appointment yet but I don't plan on taking any of her calls today, unless it is an emergency. I'm sure she will send a TM with an update when she has one. Either way, I can ask about D4's appointment when I talk with the kids in the evening.