This has been on my mind.

I have read many posts since I have been here and pretty much what we all have in common is infidelity. So why do want someone back that hurt us in the most hurtful way that a person can be hurt. I know we love our spouses but where do we draw the line. I know we love our spouses, but if they really loved us, then why did they cheat in the first place.

Do we take them back because of the kids? I think the kids would want to come from a happy home even if the parents are divorced. It's better than living in a broken home.

I am trying to figure this out for myself.


H: 49
W: 47
D: 6
M: 6 1/2 yrs
H: Bomb #1 6-2010
H: Bomb #2 7-2011
H: Separated: 7-11-11
Reconciling 2-2012
Separated: 1-31-15 (I asked him to move out)