[quote=jim0987]If my theory is correct, then this is not the ideal reaction because it is your way of holding to your part of the argument with her. She tells you: "Things are bad and awful, you hurt me and you will suffer for what you've done!" and your attitude responds "Nope, things are good!" Every time you say "Bloody rain, right?" she hears "Get over it". It tells her that you don't hear her, that you don't get what she's trying to say, that you're trying to move along.
I think this is some really interesting insight, Mozza. Can you please hook me up with your IC?
So Jim, I think I'm in a somewhat similar boat to what Mozza writes about above. I can see that my H just can't (isn't ready to) enjoy my company, which has made our exchanges post BD really tough. Would you ever consider expressing regret over the past in a letter to your W? You know I pondered whether or not to do this in my sitch frequently...but I never did pull the trigger.
On an unrelated note, you mentioned you're able to run again....which reminds me about your foot. Has it taken all that time to heal???
H 37 Me 36 Together 15 years Married 5 years No kids BD Apr 2014 H moved out 2 Jun 2014
