It's Been Two Months Today

[DifRent]

With regard to the exchange above, I'd kind of like to address it in an email instead of a conversation, because I don't want to leave it hanging, but at the same time, I have a feeling a conversation will get heated. Here's what I've written so far, which is a first draft and as much venting to myself as anything, so I KNOW I wrote way too much... maybe Wonka could stop by and help parse it? I won't send till the morning, after I'm pretty sure the OW has gone to work...


So, in order that we refrain from yet another fight, I want to be clear about a few things here in writing, particularly regarding the direction in which you began to take the conversation on the phone yesterday:

FACT: "We" did not break up. People who date break up. Ours was not a dating relationship that didn't work out. We were in a committed, monogamous, intended for life union with two lives intimately entwined and given to each other, no matter how much you try to rewrite the history. Regardless of the "feelings" you began to have but never shared with me, that's what we had. WE didn't break up. YOU decided to trade me in for an older model and fantasy driven good times. Your decision, 100%. Not mine.

FACT: You absolutely have the right to do whatever you want to do. But if you think for a minute that a mere two months after you drop the bomb that completely shatters my life and the future I had planned, I should just be okay seeing you and the other party responsible for this mess in couple mode outside OUR home, well... that's why people think you are "wacko." Because that's a self-absorbed delusional notion that is actually hurtful to the woman for whom you claim to have had pure love all these years - and sooooo completely out of character for the W they've known all these years.

That's all. I really don't want to talk about this, other than to once again ask you to be respectful of me and my feelings, which would require you to think about someone other than yourself long enough to make a decision.

And please, keep this communication between us.

Thank you.
Dif