Heather, You have several months before you need to make a decision as to whether you stay where you currently are located or to move. The house that you and your D looked at sounds like another dump. If someone is trying to rent the place, the least they could do is clean it up and have it looking somewhat respectable and inviting. Sounds like this is not the case. If the basement smells moldy, then I would be concerned about the dampness, etc. Not a good place to think about moving to.
Don't take this the wrong way, but you don't have the time or energy to work on this place. You need to be looking at places that are at least clean, good appliances and less yard work and snow plowing. I know you want to get closer to work and have some opportunities for your D, but sometimes we have to look at many places before the right one comes along.
As for the man managing the place, I would listen to my gut about him.
If you really want to move closer in, start networking w/people in the community and w/realtors. There has to be something out there that wouldn't require a lot of move in ready stuff.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
