It's Been Two Months Today

[DifRent]

Thanks Heavy and PP... you guys are awesome. Big hugs back. Really want to avoid medication if possible, but if things get to be too much, I'll consider it.

Now get this... I headed out the door toward my car to go meet my friends for brunch. There was a car parked right in front of our townhome, pretty much blocking my car. It was unfamiliar to me... I noticed two bikes on the rack on the back of it, and thought... "that looks like my W's..."

And sure enough, there was the OW in the driver's seat, looking at her phone or something.

I stood there in shock for just a minute, fought the VERY REAL urge to go over there and be violent either with my fists or my words, and came back into the house to try and collect myself. I could not believe they were out there, just sitting in the car, in front of our home. A few minutes later, my W comes walking through the front door. She looks at me like nothing is wrong.

"Hi, how are you?"

I just let her walk past, into the bedroom. She came back out, and I said, "I was fine till just now. What is SHE doing out there, right here in my face?"

"Well, I needed to get some things," she said, as she headed into the garage for some lawn chairs and her bicycle helmet.

"And you have your own car," I said.

"Why are you so upset?" she asked on her way out the door.

"I can't believe you crossed YET ANOTHER boundary. How DARE you bring her anywhere near our home! Get the f**k out of here." And I slammed the door.

My blood was boiling, but I wasn't happy I lost my cool.

A couple of hours later, she called me while I was at my friend's house. I answered.

"I just wanted to say that I'm sorry you were so upset," she said.

I said, "Are you sorry I was upset? Or sorry for what you did? Because there's a big difference."

"I don't get what the big deal is," she started... "We broke up, and..."

"Look," I was calm. "Not going to get into this with you now. You have plans, I have plans. Maybe we'll talk about it this week. For now, I have nothing to say to you. Have a good afternoon."

"Okay, bye."

My God, how dense could this woman possibly be????

I'm just venting here, I know you all have equally dense spouses. But I'm wondering how others might have handled a similar situation, or how you have handled it.

I'm sure Wonka will have something to say...

Off now to watch the World Cup at a sports bar with some other friends. It's been good GALing today. Not even thinking about the difficult week that lies ahead. Tomorrow will take care of itself, right?