2 Post - learning too slowly

[asitis]

Quite a shock, and I'm sorry for your pain. I think the worst thing you could do during this initial state of shock is to make decisions and changes. In a couple days or a couple weeks you will likely see things a bit differently and decide that you don't want to stick with those changes. You don't want to be seen as too reactive to her or inconsistent and unstable in crisis.

Give yourself the space and time for the dust to settle. Don't insist that she explain herself, push her to do anything, etc. Detach, get away from her if you need to. Let her also digest what she has done and the pain she has caused and how you did not react by trying to control her.

Take care of yourself.