I am so glad to hear how you are redirecting your focus. It is certainly not too late to build a wonderful relationship with D12. Learn what she likes, maybe find a common interest between you. This is a tough age for some 12 yr old girls. Just be careful not to treat her like a baby (most don't like it). They grow up so fast, and dads have a difficult time seeing their D's beyond a little girl.
It is exciting how your eyes are opening about yourself and the motivation you truly had. It was really about just getting your W back, wasn't it? That's the case in the majority of newcomers, IMO. It is a stumbling block to their personal progress. You were stuck and had your life on pause, but now, I believe you will be able to start fresh in a having a real life, and making changes b/c they benefit "you" and not b/c you want someone else to notice.
Great job today!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
