Toots,

Have you seen Wonka's boundaries cheat sheet? No, I have not. Where can I find?

I called my H this morning and told him that I wanted to just talk. Not put any pressure on him, but just let him know that I wasn't out to change him, but to let him know that I don't want to be invisible anymore and I just need a little help around the house and with our D. He agreed but will call me later to set up a time to meet.

I know is probably wrong, but I disagree with the therapist about having no contact at all.

If you think I should not meet with him and feel that would be the best thing and maybe wait for him to contact me. What do you think?


H: 49
W: 47
D: 6
M: 6 1/2 yrs
H: Bomb #1 6-2010
H: Bomb #2 7-2011
H: Separated: 7-11-11
Reconciling 2-2012
Separated: 1-31-15 (I asked him to move out)