Quote: ...as an LD, how long would it take you for attraction and desire to return when your H is making it "easy" by being nice, handsome, charming, considerate. I guess I'm trying to determine if my 180 will be enough to re-attract her to me and create a little of the euphoria.
I guess it depends on HOW 180 it is! If you're a completely different person... then she may be suspicious that it's just for sex. If you can balance your 180 with genuine interest in your W and her interests, rather than her body... then I think a little euphoria will *have* to come! Making it "easy" by being nice, handsome, charming and considerate sound like qualities that she would have expected all along... know what I mean? 180s have to feel good for you so that you'll want to keep 'em to simply to better yourself, along the lines of the LRT.
In my sitch, my attraction and desire returned in full force the moment I felt he seemed to *really* understand me and how past actions had hurt me. I thought we were somewhat out of the woods there, but then I slowly realized that some of my top needs were not being met and I reverted to an LD (but still trying to appear as HD). I'm working my way towards KNOWING what my LLs are and setting goals for both H and I to reach for so that both our *top* LLs will be met. We're also going to do this questionaire together and hopefully it'll help.
