Plans....I haven't made any, but it would be a great idea if I worked on that instead of focusing on him.
(Insert: So here are some plans I'm going to make right now, which focus purely on me....)
I just can't seem to wrap my brain around how he can put his friends first, always, instead of his family.
Our D wanted him to come over do fireworks with us last night and told her no because he was going to a friend's party. WOW, how can a parent do that. I guess I always put my family first. I was the one who had to hold her while she cried and that broke my heart. And his heart, (well he has a thumping gizzard for a heart) is so cold towards us.I have lost all respect for him.
I know this is a stupid question, what kind of boundaries do you set in a marriage?
Hopeful, the huge one for me was not living in an open M. We S as soon as H admitted his PA. Since then, there have been times that he wanted us to be more than friends with OW still in the picture, and that's been a firm no from me.
I also set a boundary on him talking to me about OW and how poorly she treated him. I told him I wasn't his friend, I was his W and he had betrayed our vows with OW. I wasn't willing to be a listening ear to his complaints about her. Others (living together) have set boundaries on texting or contacting OP from the house, on ML or sharing a bed, on having OP around the kids.
Have you seen Wonka's boundaries cheat sheet?
Last edited by Toots; 07/05/1503:22 PM.
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
