Aquarian, there are some points there. My focus is not necessarily to improve my sexlife but rather are entire relationship in general because we've been living autonomously for so long. The fact that you see it that way might mean that she's seeing that way too. It's something for me to think about.
Secondly, I'm way more enthusiastic about my "courting" than i was when we first got togehther . W and I were neighborhood friends until we met back up in college. She and I ML on the first date and we simply eased into a relationship without much courtship. I never had to try and I was a little reluctant for the first 3 months to pursue a commitment. Maybe I was taking HER interest for granted because I could...hmmm. So really, this is the first time I've ever "courted" anyone. I'm way more enthusiastic now than I ever was.
Third, regarding making her feel special. That's exactly what I've been doing lately (I think). Instead of buying her self-help books, I've been buying her books realting to positive things she wants to do in life. I've been keeping my eyes on her, not checking out the other women at restaurants, the gifts etc. Praising her in front of others etc. Opening doors for her (which is a great way to get a kiss or a grope). I've been making myself look as good as possible and staying in shape. I'm making her laugh alot and having nice time together. Last night, when I got back from my trip, despite us both being very tired, we had an incredible LM session. See my journal for a creative something I tried. .
I guess, as an LD, how long would it take you for attraction and desire to return when you H is making it "easy" by being nice, handsome, charming, considerate. I guess I'm trying to determine if my 180 will be enough to re-attract her to me and create a little of the euphoria.
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