One thing I have learned from the psychobabble books and some personal experience is that there is a period of euphoric love where faults in your partner are ignored and love is blind. For this reason I don't think that looking back to the early days and comparing your behaviour is particularly valuable. The chances are that you never behaved in an ideal way. After a couple of years (and the stress of wedding preparations) the euphoria wears off and you embark on your long SSM journey. The trick is to understand where you have always gone wrong and do the necessary 180s hopefully carrying your LD spouse along with you. SD
